Need for Connecting With Your Tribe

Humans are social creatures. Even though we pride ourselves on our independence and individuality, there is a human need that runs deep – a need to be belong, to be loved, and to connect with others.

For those who don’t have a tribe, Emma Seppala, Phd, makes an interesting point about the internal sense of connection and provides solutions for those who might consider themselves loners.

In Social Connection Improves Health, Wellbeing & Longevity she writes:

Are you shy? Is it hard for you to meet people? Rest your worries. The most interesting fact about connection is that it has nothing to do with the number of friends you have on Facebook or the amount of community groups to which you belong. If you’re a loner or an introvert, you can still reap the benefits. How is that possible? A sense of connection is internal. Researchers agree that the benefits of connection are actually linked to your subjective sense of connection. In other words, if you feel connected to others on the inside, you reap the benefits thereof! That is good news. While many of us cannot always control the number of friends we have, one thing we can take responsibility for is the state of our mind. Ever felt lonely in a crowd or a group of your own acquaintances? In the same way, it is possible to feel connected in a group of strangers. We can foster, nurture and build our internal sense of connection. It just takes a little courage and a spirit of adventure.

Brene Brown, a professor at the University of Houston who specializes in social connection says:

A deep sense of love and belonging is an irresistible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.

Many of us, including myself, belong to SBG for that very reason. We go to our classes to not only learn, but to laugh and smile with other students and friends. We provide support for one another when life gets hard. We challenge each other; we keep each other accountable; we are connected.